While reading another blog, I came across the following:

THE TRUTH IS IN WHAT HAPPENED, HOW IT HAPPENED; NOT HOW IT FELT, NOT HOW IT FEELS. YOU CAN’T POSSIBLY REMEMBER HOW SOMETHING FELT AT THE TIME BECAUSE FEELINGS, WHATEVER THE FUCK THOSE ARE, ARE FLUID.

I really love this quote because it strikes at the heart of the argument made by many people when defending actions that hurt others*. You’ve definitely heard and probably even used this (feeling) argument before. For example, “it wasn’t what I intended”, “it was just sex, I didn’t love him/her”, or the worst, “i did it because I love you”.

So, I must say, unapologetically, I don’t always care about your feelings, because it is not what is important to me. The most important thing to me is the truth. And the truth, my friends, is in what happened.

*Maybe more pathetic is when it is used by those who have been hurt to defend their victimizer.